I don’t know why (or how), but in my life I have always had good friends, and it is something I am so thankful for. I’ve been thinking about it a lot recently, because with having friends; comes the responsibility to be a good friend, and this is something I am neglecting at the moment. It’s something that frustrates me (because I care), and something I want to improve upon.
I have responsibilities as a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a daughter in law, a mother and a wife. I’m not someone that feels pressure to be perfect in any of those roles, but I do like people to know they are loved and appreciated. My immediate family is huge, my mum is now without my dad, my life is busy, my boys are young, and I get distracted by daily life…but at the same time, I don’t want any of those to become excuses.
The amazing thing about being a friend is that often you don’t know what difference you make. I’ve been reflecting on the ‘types of friends’ I’ve had throughout my life, and one thing that has struck me is that I didn’t always know I needed a friend until afterwards. I was fine, plodding along nicely, but having a friend made my experiences so much better, so much easier, so much sweeter, and so much more fun.
Friendship is beautiful, and this is a small celebration of its beauty. An ode to those people in my life that know who they are, and that will never know exactly what a difference they have made in my life. You are precious.
There are friends that you have for a season of your life, but then you grow apart – and that’s fine.
There are friends that will always need you a little more than the others – and that’s fine too.
There are friends you’ve known since you were small – they understand where you come from, they know your family, and there is something so precious about that. They knew your grandparents and your late father, and it somehow binds you together a little more tightly.
There are friends that revised with you. Went to the library with you. Ate lunch with you, and sat next to you.
There are friends that are honest with you, because they want the best for you.
There are friends that are always upbeat and positive.
There are friends that you see a few times a week – they are easy going, fun, chatty and have a very similar outlook on life. They have children, are ambitious, completely lovely and you always look forward to seeing them.
There are friends that understand you. Know exactly what you mean, listen and always say the right thing.
There are friends that know a secret or two.
There are friends that celebrate with you. That encourage you. That cheer you on.
There are friends that you know were placed in your life for a reason.
There are friends that you only see or hear from every so often, but it’s always the same, and it’s always great to catch up.
There are friends that got you through university. Helped you get ready for that important party, helped you navigate through the dating scene, danced with you until 4am and were up for anything.
There are friends that you just love chatting to, inspire you and make you want to be a better person. I would slot every single one of my ten siblings into this category. They are some of my favourite people to talk to – so full of ideas, thoughts and plans.
There are the people that you never expected to become friends with, but for some reason it works.
There are friends that see a rose tinted version of you, the version of yourself you’re trying to become…and isn’t that nice?
There is my husband who is my greatest friend and one I often take for granted. He knows the ‘warts and all’ version of me…and isn’t that nice too? Someone has got to accept them.
Contact a friend you love, and let them know that you care.