Since becoming a mum I’ve realised that there isn’t such a thing as bad days and good days, or ‘one of those days’. Instead there are difficult moments, blissful moments, frantic moments, uplifting moments, emotional moments, perfect moments, totally crazy moments and moments that make you feel like you could burst with happiness. But these usually last a few seconds, minutes or hours – not a whole day.
When I was mum to just Winston I used to label days as ‘good’ or ‘bad’, but decided to be honest to myself, and admit that it wasn’t entirely true. I know it’s ridiculously obvious, but since I decided to stop labelling days, it has made a huge difference. If the day doesn’t start off well, I no longer expect more drama to happen. I take a breath, and try very hard to take each moment as it comes, which is easier on some days than others.
The reason I’m mentioning this, is because the above picture was taken on a day that didn’t start particularly well. Ru woke up very emotional, I couldn’t get Otto to sleep for longer than 20 minutes and Winston kept asking me when the two of us could hang out (we call Thursday our ‘hang out’ day). We all had lunch, Ru had a nap, and from 2pm we had the most wonderful time. Another example from this week is Tuesday – the day was lovely, but then Otto screamed all evening. Neither can be labelled as a good day, or a bad day – just a collection of differing moments.
W: I took Win to buy a new pair of Crocs on Saturday and he was completely over the moon.
R: With Ru a cuddle fixes everything. Win used to (and still does) prefer to talk about things, but Ru just likes to be held.
O: O has been far more alert this week. I love how he searches for our eye contact and craves our company.