Neither Jared or I are ready to have Christmas by ourselves yet – just the four of us. I’m reliably told that we will know when the time is right, but for now we are more than happy to spend it with parents, siblings, nephews and nieces. I know it will be hard to move on from past family traditions and create some of our own, but there is such excitement in that too.
We haven’t properly started establishing our own traditions, but the message we want to try and clearly send to our children is: ‘Birthday’s are about you, Christmas is most definitely not about you’. Yes a few lovely gifts with lots of magic, but we want to really encourage the focus on others.
Of course I know there will be countless times in the future that they will ask, demand and want things, but I want to keep their expectations low, and save lots of money in the process. I remember my siblings and I sitting around our huge dinner table hacking four or five Argos catalogues apart – cutting, gluing, sticking, writing, knowing full well we would get nothing on the list. The fun was most definitely in the process – the dreaming, the wishing and the comparing.
Last year I decided to finish my Christmas shopping in November so I could concentrate on my ‘Do Good This Advent’ project, which I found made a huge difference to my enjoyment of the whole season. Christmas felt far more magical, but this year I wanted to get Winston on board. I’ve heard lots of families doing similar things, so I spoke to Win on Monday night and asked him to think of ways we could help people. This is what he came up with:
- Be kind to somebody we don’t know
- Pick flowers and give them to someone
- Buy some food for people
- Give tomatoes
- Be kind to trees
- Give toys
- Drive someone to hospital
- Share toys
- Give a toy away
- Give t-shirts
- Give some money
- Give some string
- Sing to someone
- Be kind to shepherds
- Ask the builders to build houses for people that don’t have one
- Give bulbs
- Give someone a train
- Put some wood on the fire
- Crafts for people
The beauty of asking a three year old is that they don’t always think practically or logically. It will force us to be a little more creative, and I’m excited to get started on his sweet little list.
Any ideas for “Be kind to shepherds”, would be appreciated…